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Frequently Asked

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW

◎ ABOUT 69ROOMS

We throw high-vibe adult parties where real people actually connect. We run carefully curated lifestyle events in gorgeous spaces where respect, attraction, and freedom to explore are the name of the game. No bs, no judgment, just select people having a damn good time.

◎ GETTING STARTED & BECOMING A MEMBER

Browse our events page and find one that excites you, then hit 'Join the Experience.' Fill out your application like a human, not a robot (we can tell the difference). Drop your pics and create your account. When we dig your vibe and approve you, you're officially in. Once approved, you'll RSVP for specific events you want to attend and pay then. Your dashboard unlocks right away where you can track everything, update your profile, or grab Premium Membership for extra perks.

You can update your phone number and password in your dashboard whenever you want. Email changes need our help, so ping us through the Contact page and we'll sort it out. Your account type locks once you're approved, but you don't actually need to change it. Just apply to events as whatever type you want (single, couple, whatever works) and we'll review based on your existing status.

◎ APPLYING & GETTING APPROVED

Pick an event that excites you, fill out the application honestly (we actually read every single one), and show us who you really are. We're not hunting for perfection, we want authentic people. When your energy vibes with ours, you'll hear back within 72 hours with an approval decision.

We don't charge upfront costs or monthly dues unless you want Premium Membership ($69/month), which gets you our matchmaking algorithm, priority booking, and other perks. Otherwise you just pay for the specific events you want to attend. Pricing varies by event and whether you're coming solo or as a couple, all listed clearly on each event page. Once you're approved as a member (not "for an event" - approval is universal), you become a member automatically at no extra cost.

This is a Premium-only feature, and honestly one of the best parts of upgrading. Our algorithm analyzes compatibility across attraction preferences, play styles, boundaries, experience levels, and chemistry indicators. Think of it like having a smart wingman who connects you with people you'll actually click with before you even arrive at the event. You skip the awkward small talk and go straight to natural connections.

We want to see the real you, not the version you think we want to see. What makes you interesting as a person? What lights you up? Why would having you in the room make the energy better? Be thoughtful, be authentic, and show us why you'd add real value to the experience.

We need photos for two main reasons: authenticity and safety. Photos help us understand your vibe and how you present yourself. Plus we need them to verify you're actually you when you walk in the door at check-in. Your application photos stay strictly private. Only our team sees them during the review process or if there's ever a security incident. Nobody else gets access to them.

You'll receive an instant confirmation email after creating your account (check your spam folder if you don't see it in your inbox). Most applications get reviewed within 3 business days. Solo male applications might take slightly longer since we're really intentional about maintaining gender balance. We'll reach out with our final decision via email, so keep an eye on both your inbox and spam folder. Once approved, you can start RSVPing for events immediately from your dashboard.

This depends on what type of rejection you receive. We have two kinds: soft rejections and hard rejections. A soft rejection means you can try again at the next event. Maybe your application was too generic, your photos were unclear, or the vibe didn't quite match what we're looking for. A hard rejection means you're permanently banned. This happens when there are behavior red flags, safety concerns, or serious values clashes. You'll know which type you received based on whether we tell you to try again later or that you can't come back. Soft rejections give you another shot after you address the feedback.

Your approval lasts forever—you only apply once. After becoming an approved member, simply RSVP to any event you want to attend (you'll see the RSVP button on event pages). When you RSVP, that's when you pay for that specific event. No reapplying, no application fees ever again. Your approval is permanent membership in the 69Rooms community. RSVP just books your spot at a specific event. Your dashboard tracks all your RSVPs.

You can't edit it directly through the system, but we can help. If you realize you made a mistake or forgot something important, email us immediately with your application details and what needs to be changed. We'll update it before we start the review process. After you're approved, you can update your profile information in your dashboard whenever you want.

We'll probably reject your application outright, or we might reach out for clarification if something seems obviously wrong. Real talk: if we can't verify your identity at the door (wrong name, you look different from your photos, fake ID), you're not getting into the event. No refunds, no exceptions. Honesty isn't just a policy for us, it's how we keep everyone safe. Be straight with us and we'll be straight with you.

You don't pay anything to apply for membership—applications are completely free. After you're approved as a member, you'll see an RSVP button on event pages. When you click RSVP for an event you want to attend, that's when you pay. Payment happens at checkout through Stripe (credit card) or you can request alternative payment like Zelle. Payment confirms your spot instantly. Step 1: Free membership application. Step 2: Pay only when RSVPing to specific events.

◎ ACCOUNT TYPES, RELATIONSHIPS & TICKETING

Yes. Your account type isn't permanently locked. Approved as a couple but attending solo? RSVP as a single person and pay the single rate. Approved solo but now have a partner? They need to apply for membership first (they'll get vetted separately), then you can both RSVP together as a couple. Relationships and situations change—just RSVP to each event as whatever reflects your current status. We review based on your existing approval.

Everyone needs to apply for membership and be approved individually, without exception. If you're applying together with a partner, select 'Couple' on the application form. If you're already approved as a solo member but want to attend with someone new, they'll need to apply for membership first. Once you're both approved members, you can RSVP to events together as a couple.

If you're already an approved member and want to attend with a friend (romantic or not), apply to the event as a 'Couple.' In our system, 'couple' includes married partners, dating partners, play partners, and platonic friends attending together. Basically any duo that wants to attend as a pair. Your friend will still need to go through vetting since everyone requires individual approval, but your existing member status helps make the process smoother. If you're not approved yet, just apply as a couple from the beginning and you'll both be reviewed together.

We love working with poly folks and complex relationship structures. Once you're approved as a member, you can RSVP to events with different partners each time. Your partners just need to be approved members too. You can maintain multiple profiles using different email addresses for different partners, or keep one profile and RSVP with different partners for each event. Whatever your relationship dynamic looks like, we can accommodate it. Email us at 69rooms@undrmsk.com for personalized guidance on your specific situation.

This is completely normal and something we see all the time. Healthy relationships often involve partners with different desires and boundaries. Many couples attend our events to explore individually, together, or side-by-side while each makes their own connections. The key is communicating clearly with each other before the event, checking in with each other during the night, and using our space in whatever way works for your specific dynamic. There's no single 'right' way to navigate this.

◎ PRIVACY & SAFETY

We only ask for your legal name to verify your identity at check-in, and that's the only time we use it. Everywhere else in the system (your profile, at events, in the community), you can go by whatever name feels right to you. Many members use playful aliases, nicknames, or just their first name. Your legal name is never mentioned publicly or shared with other members unless you personally choose to reveal it. Be whoever you want to be in our spaces.

We don't show attendee lists, and the reason is simple: privacy needs to work both ways. If someone could see your profile just because you're both attending the same event, you'd want that information protected too. We limit attendee visibility by design to protect everyone's discretion and safety. That said, if you want to connect with other members before or after events, we do have a private Telegram community. Text us to request access and we'll get you set up.

We work with security professionals who understand lifestyle events and know how to be discreet. They're present from check-in through the end of the night, handling ticket verification, monitoring entrances and exits, keeping an eye on personal belongings, and available immediately if any situation needs attention. Their presence is intentionally low-key but always effective. They act as an invisible safety net that lets you focus entirely on your experience without worrying about logistics or safety.

Tell our team or security immediately when this happens. We have staff positioned throughout the event specifically to handle these situations. We take consent and safety extremely seriously. If someone crosses a line or makes you uncomfortable, they get removed from the event. Period. No second chances when it comes to consent violations or boundary issues.

Mutual discretion is always assumed in these situations. If you see someone you know from outside the lifestyle, that information stays completely confidential, just like everything else that happens at 69Rooms. Everyone at the event operates under the same unspoken agreement: what happens here stays here. You can choose whether or not to acknowledge each other at the event. That's entirely up to both of you and how comfortable you feel.

◎ EVENT EXPERIENCE & ENVIRONMENT

You definitely won't be the only first-timer. Our community thrives on welcoming energy and people actually talk to each other at our events. Whether you're attending solo or bringing a partner, you'll find friendly faces and conversations that flow naturally. Arrive early during the welcome window so you can ease into the space and meet people before the full crowd arrives.

We don't host separate pre-event mixers because our events are intentionally designed to create an organic socialization experience from the moment you arrive. The welcome hour, the opening talk, and the way we facilitate introductions are all specifically built to help you ease in naturally, meet people authentically, and become part of the energy. Having separate mixers would actually dilute that magic and create an unnecessary barrier. Just show up during the welcome window and you'll find that connecting with people happens effortlessly.

When applications are closed for an event, that means we're at capacity. You won't see an option to apply on the event page. Our system automatically manages capacity based on maintaining proper gender balance and staying within venue limits. If the 'Join the Experience' button isn't visible, we're currently full for that specific demographic (single male, single female, couple, or non-binary).

This is our automatic capacity management system in action. When you see 'Accepting Applications', that means we're still actively reviewing submissions and have room for that account type. When you see 'Closed', it means we've reached our limit for that specific account type (single male, single female, couple, or non-binary) and we need to stop accepting more applications to maintain proper gender balance. This system ensures every event has the right energy and demographic ratio.

When an event reaches capacity, you'll see a waitlist feature appear on the event page. You can join the waitlist, and if a spot opens up (which happens when people cancel), we'll notify you immediately and give you a chance to grab that ticket. Waitlist spots are distributed on a first-come, first-served basis, so you need to act quickly when you receive the notification email.

You'll find a genuinely diverse age mix at our events. There are vibrant people in their 20s discovering the lifestyle, seasoned explorers in their 30s and 40s who know exactly what they want, and confident individuals in their 50s and beyond who bring incredible presence. The common thread across all age groups isn't the number, it's the energy and intentionality people bring. We look for people who take care of themselves physically and mentally, who show up with genuine presence, and who contribute positive energy to the space. Your age matters far less than how you carry yourself and treat others.

69Rooms events are designed as larger-scale lifestyle parties. You can typically expect 50-75 people on average, with some events reaching 100+ depending on the specific venue capacity and layout.

69Rooms hosts private lifestyle events in major US cities including Los Angeles, Miami, New York, Tampa, San Francisco, Chicago, and Las Vegas, with more locations launching soon. Each city page shows upcoming events and waitlist options: Lifestyle Events in Los Angeles • Miami Adult Social Events • New York Private Parties • San Francisco Lifestyle Community • Chicago Intimate Gatherings • Las Vegas Exclusive Events. Don't see your city? We're expanding across the US. Join our waitlist or contact us if you'd like to bring 69Rooms to your area.

Most of our venues have dedicated quieter areas built in. You'll typically find lounge spaces, chill-out rooms, or outdoor areas where you can step away and decompress when you need to. You're absolutely not expected to be 'on' and socializing for the entire duration of the event. Take whatever breaks you need, recharge your social battery, and re-engage with the party when you feel ready.

◎ DRESS CODE, PACKING & ARRIVAL

Each event page lists the specific theme and dress code, complete with inspiration boards to guide your outfit choices. Our community consistently shows up dressed to impress with thoughtful execution. When an event has a theme, people genuinely commit to it. For elegant affairs, you should plan for cocktail attire or suits. Pro tip: bring a change of clothes in your bag. Many guests start with more modest attire during the social hour, then switch into something more expressive and revealing as the night progresses.

Definitely pack a bag with essentials. Bring a change of clothes for later in the night, any personal items you might need, and toys if you have favorites you like to use. Our events are BYOB for alcohol, but we provide all the mixers, water, glassware, and refreshment bites. We supply the essentials like condoms, lube, massage oil, and towels. Feel free to bring your favorite toys or anything else that makes you feel comfortable. Just leave expensive valuables and jewelry at home for safety.

We have a strict 1-hour arrival window, and everyone needs to be present for the opening talk. This isn't optional or negotiable. The opening talk is where we establish consent culture, safety guidelines, and community expectations for the night. If you miss the opening talk, you cannot participate in play activities. You need to plan your schedule to arrive during the designated welcome window.

You'll receive the venue address 2-3 days before the event, and sometimes on the day of the event itself for extra privacy and security. We send an email with a secure link where you can view the location details. We keep venue addresses private to protect both our guests' discretion and our relationships with venue partners. Only confirmed ticket holders who have been approved and paid get access to this information.

We send out venue details via email 2-3 days before each event. Make absolutely sure to check both your primary inbox and your spam folder, since sometimes our emails get filtered there by mistake. If you don't see the venue email by the day before the event, reach out to us immediately so we can resend it.

◎ PHOTOS, DEVICES & MEDIA

Personal photography is allowed during the social hour, but only in our specifically designated photo zones. These areas are set up so you can capture your outfit and look without worrying about accidentally getting other guests in the background. Once the opening talk begins, all phones and devices must be completely put away for the rest of the night. This strict policy exists to protect everyone's privacy and create a space where people feel safe and present. Violating our photo and device policy results in immediate removal from the event and a permanent ban from all future 69Rooms events. No exceptions.

◎ PLAY, BOUNDARIES & CONSENT

Hard limits are the absolute no-go boundaries that keep everyone safe and respected at our events. At 69Rooms, the following activities are completely off the table: anything non-consensual (this should be obvious), heavy impact play, breath play, blood play, fire play, scat, extreme age play, intoxication to the point of incapacity, and any activity that could cause injury or put other guests at risk. Light bondage, sensory play, and consensual kink activities are totally welcome and encouraged. We're a sex-positive exploration space, not a hardcore BDSM dungeon. Safety, enthusiastic consent, and mutual respect come first, always. No exceptions to these boundaries.

Some of our venues include light bondage furniture or designated play spaces with basic equipment. You're always welcome to bring your own personal toys if you have specific items you prefer. Our primary focus is on connection and consensual exploration rather than hardcore kink scenes. Light BDSM activities are totally fine and encouraged. Heavy impact play, breath play, fire play, and blood play are not allowed at any of our events.

Absolutely not. There are zero expectations and zero pressure to engage in any sexual activity. You can observe and watch others, socialize and network, focus entirely on your own partner, or fully explore with new people. Whatever feels right for you in the moment is completely valid. Many of our guests participate in very different ways at different events depending on their mood and comfort level. Use your words to communicate what you want, respect other people's boundaries, and create whatever experience feels authentic to you.

Of course you can attend. There's no 'required' sexual activity at our events whatsoever. Some people engage primarily through sensual touch and massage, making out and kissing, watching and observing others, or just connecting with people emotionally and intellectually. The foundation of consent culture means you get to define your own boundaries around what you're comfortable with, and everyone else is expected to respect those boundaries without question or pressure.

We strongly encourage regular STI testing because taking care of your sexual health is both attractive and responsible. While we don't mandate test results or proof of testing for event entry, we do emphasize informed consent and open communication as core community values. During our opening talk at every event, we explicitly remind all attendees to know their own status, test regularly, and be prepared to have honest and direct conversations with potential partners about recent test results and safer sex practices. Your sexual health is your personal responsibility, and having those conversations with partners is your responsibility as well.

◎ SOLO ATTENDANCE & COMMUNITY DYNAMICS

Feeling nervous is totally normal and completely valid. Our members are all vetted, respectful people who are genuinely interested in creating positive connections rather than just hooking up. The environment is consent-focused and respectful from the moment you walk through the door. Our advice for first-timers: arrive during the early part of the welcome window. This gives you time to meet our staff team, settle into the physical space, and start conversations with other early arrivals before the full energy of the crowd builds. Just be yourself, stay open to the experience, and you'll find your groove naturally.

We actively manage demographic ratios to ensure a comfortable, low-pressure atmosphere at every single event. Generally speaking, we aim to have more women than men at our parties, which creates much better energy and more opportunities for organic connection to happen naturally. Our backend system tracks incoming applications in real-time broken down by account type (single male, single female, couple, non-binary), and we constantly adjust capacity limits accordingly. If single women are applying and getting approved faster than expected, we'll release additional single male application spots to maintain the proper balance. This is intentional curation and active management, not random luck or first-come-first-served model.

Show up with genuine curiosity, not expectations or entitlement. Be authentically friendly, respectful, and present in conversations. This isn't a transactional space or a hookup guarantee. Dress well and commit to the theme if there is one. Arrive slightly early during the welcome window so you can meet people as they trickle in and introduce yourself naturally without the overwhelming crowd. Our community values authentic energy and genuine conversation over aggressive pursuit or pickup artist tactics. You might end up being exactly the person someone was hoping to meet, or you might spend the entire night having fascinating conversations without any physical connection. Both of those outcomes are completely valid and worthwhile experiences. Just bring positive, respectful energy and see where the night naturally takes you.

100% yes. 69Rooms actively welcomes all gender identities and sexual orientations without exception. Apply to events in whatever way feels most authentic to you and your identity. We're built on a foundation of clear communication and enthusiastic consent, and we firmly believe everyone is entitled to their own preferences and boundaries when it comes to intimacy and attraction. In situations that involve direct sexual interaction, we strongly encourage proactive and honest communication about anything that may significantly affect another person's experience, comfort level, or consent.

◎ DRINKS, ALCOHOL & FOOD

Our events operate on a BYOB (bring your own bottle) basis for all alcohol. Bring whatever you personally like to drink, whether that's wine, spirits, beer, or nothing at all. We provide all the mixers, sparkling water, ice, glassware, and light aphrodisiac-infused food bites throughout the night.

Leave the meal prep and tupperware at home because we have the refreshment situation completely covered. Our venues all have specific catering arrangements in place, and we provide carefully curated bites and treats throughout every event. Focus your energy on the drinks, the human connections, and the overall experience. Your snack and food situation is already handled by us.

◎ RSVP & BOOKING

Step 1: Apply for membership (free). You'll fill out an application, submit photos, and select which event interests you most (this helps us prioritize your review, but doesn't lock you into that event). We review your application and decide if you're a good fit. Step 2: Once approved, RSVP to any event you want (not just the one you selected during application). When you RSVP, you pay for that specific event and your spot is confirmed. Your membership approval lasts forever, so you only apply once.

Once you're approved as a member, you'll see a green 'RSVP for This Event' button on event pages. Click it, select your attendee type (couple, male, female, or non-binary), and choose your payment method. You can pay instantly with a credit card via Stripe, or request alternative payment like Zelle. If you choose Zelle, you'll receive payment instructions within 24 hours. Your RSVP is confirmed once payment is complete.

Generally speaking, RSVPs become non-refundable as we get closer to the event date because we need to protect our venue commitments and carefully curated guest list balance. That said, reach out to us as soon as you know you can't attend and we'll review your specific situation on a case-by-case basis. If you notify us at least 3 days before the event, we can often transfer your credit to a future event instead of losing it entirely. The key to flexibility is communication. Don't ghost us or no-show, and we'll genuinely do our best to work with you and find a solution.

Absolutely, you can leave whenever you need to. No hard feelings or judgment whatsoever. Just let our staff or security team know you're heading out so we don't spend time worrying about your whereabouts or safety. Your personal comfort and boundaries always come first, and we respect whatever decision you make about staying or leaving.

◎ PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP

Visit our Subscription page to upgrade at any time, or head to your Dashboard and click 'Upgrade to Premium'. All Premium perks activate immediately once you subscribe, including matchmaking system eligibility, 48-hour priority booking windows, and exclusive member benefits. Premium Membership costs $69 per month and you can cancel anytime without penalty.

All your subscription management tools live in your personal dashboard. Log in and navigate to the Subscription section where you can view your current membership status, review your complete billing history, and cancel your subscription at any time with no penalties or fees. If you need to update your payment method, please contact our team directly at 69rooms@undrmsk.com and we'll help you update it securely through our Stripe payment processor.

Priority booking gives Premium Members a 48-hour head start before events get released to the general public. When we launch a new event, Premium Members receive exclusive early access to view the event details, submit their application, and secure their spot before anyone else even knows about it. By the time the event opens up to the wider community, you've already locked in your ticket (assuming your application gets approved). Think of it as your VIP pass to never missing out on the events you really want to attend, especially popular ones that sell out quickly.

◎ NOTIFICATIONS & UPDATES

Subscribe to our newsletter using the signup form in the footer. Once subscribed, we'll email you whenever new events get released, along with exclusive announcements and community updates. Premium Members get early access notifications 48 hours before events go public, so you can secure your spot before the general community even sees the event. Stay connected and never miss out.

◎ FEEDBACK & COMMUNITY INPUT

We genuinely love receiving feedback from our community. Email us at 69rooms@undrmsk.com with your honest thoughts about what worked well, what didn't work, and what could be improved for future events. We're constantly evolving and refining our events based on direct feedback from community members like you. Your voice and experience genuinely matter to us. If you're looking for deeper connection opportunities and ongoing support, consider upgrading to our Premium Membership for exclusive benefits and enhanced community access.

◎ LOCATIONS & VENUES

We host events in Los Angeles, New York City, Miami, and Tampa. Each city has its own energy and community vibe.

We're incredibly selective about venues. Every space gets evaluated on multiple criteria: ambiance and aesthetic quality, privacy and discretion capabilities, layout that supports both social and play areas, accessibility and parking options, and whether the venue team understands and respects lifestyle events. We work with luxury penthouses, private estates, boutique hotels, and exclusive event spaces that meet our standards. If a venue doesn't feel right, we don't use it.

We rotate venues within each city to keep the experience fresh and exciting. Some venues become recurring favorites because they work so well, but we're always scouting new spaces. Part of the 69Rooms experience is discovering beautiful, unexpected locations you might never access otherwise.

Absolutely. Your approval status is universal across all 69Rooms events, regardless of city. Once you're approved, you can apply to events in NYC, Miami, LA, Tampa, or any future cities we expand to. Many of our members travel specifically to attend events in different cities. Just browse the events page, find ones in your preferred city, and apply. Your membership isn't location-restricted.

We're constantly evaluating expansion opportunities. The next cities on our radar are San Francisco, Austin, Chicago, and potentially international locations. Expansion depends on having enough local demand, finding the right venue partners, and identifying community leaders who can help us maintain our quality standards. If you're in a city we're not in yet and want to see 69Rooms there, let us know. Member demand drives our growth decisions.